Owning Your Inner Masculine Self

For centuries, women were not allowed to assert themselves in the world, and carefully learned the role of supporter of their "men." Those who failed to respond in this manner were frequently shunned or punished, although there have always been women who defied convention! During this century particularly, women have broken out of their strictly "conventional" roles, and have been making their way in the world. Because of this, women have been successful at fulfilling more of their needs, and owning their own power more readily. As a result, a woman's relationship with the men in her life has also changed. Despite women's collective knowledge about the need to be whole persons, it is still sometimes easier to allow men (fathers, brothers, lovers and husbands) to "own" certain qualities. (They, in turn, prefer that women own certain qualities - like emotions!) But to become truly whole and functional, it is necessary to find and incorporate your inner masculine self into your sense of wholeness, instead of projecting that part of yourself onto others (most usually men) in your life.

Through the process of becoming at home with your ego, you gain a true sense of personal strength and power. To own this power, you must learn to acknowledge that it is okay to be recognized for who and what you are. Your Sun energy is the primary factor in the expression of ego needs. As a young girl, you may have seen your father through the filter of your Sun. His power of getting out into the world, and the manner by which he did it, have shaped your own sense of personal identity. And today, the Sun in your chart may symbolize significant men. But this energy is, in itself, the core of your spirit.

Your expression of your masculine sensibilities through your Gemini Sun is filtered through your intellect. Your admiration for others who are knowledgeable and communicative is a direct result of your own desire to know as much as possible. If your early impulse was to think that a man had more knowledgeable authority than a woman, that has probably changed radically as you have matured. In fact, you may even challenge that assumption through your choices in career. However, you may not think in terms of man versus woman: you're more into dealing with people for who they are, and may assume that others will also take that stance. You may even have a knack for communicating quite effectively with both men and women, and may make strides in bridging the gender gap. You can waffle a bit in situations which require you to take control, and may sit on the fence a bit too long some of the time, it just takes a little objectivity to get this under control, especially in new circumstances. But once you know how things work, you can be the maven of juggling your priorities.

Adding emphasis to your self-expression is your need to be recognized as a thoughtful or intelligent woman which is emphasized through the conjunction of your Sun and Mercury. The value you place upon learning, knowledge or information can be rather intense. You may also be under the impression that if you're smart enough, you'll get what you want from life. That may be true, but there are many levels of intelligence. One of those levels involves knowing when to stop talking and start listening, so remember that if you feel that you're not really being heard.

Mars energy is assertive, aggressive and combative, and can be angry. These are not "feminine" qualities. In fact, women who possess and project these qualities from within themselves often get bad names, and are called "ball-busters," or other expletives, by the men who are dealing with them. But to become fully whole, you need to accept the manner in which you can utilize your Mars energy so that you are confident and strong with it, and so you can get into the world and make things happen for yourself!

Although you are sensitive, you are by no means weak! With Mars in Pisces, your resilience is one of your strengths, and your flexible approach to handling challenges allows you more room for maneuvering through difficult territory. You may not always trust your assertive ability, and may feel that it would be better if somebody stronger were there to defend or protect you. Your key to your assertiveness and power is in your ability to visualize and create your own strength. You may learn by watching someone else, but when you dance for yourself, it's wonderful to watch, and frees your spirit!

Getting things done is usually not a problem for you. With Mars trine Saturn, you like to accomplish what you set out to do, and may do it with room to spare. This aspect symbolizes a positive, supportive connection between yourself and the men in your life, since it also shows that you can be self-reliant when necessary, something anyone else will appreciate. You may also have excellent timing, but have to exercise it if you're going to make the most of it!

You may have an indirect approach toward asserting yourself with Mars in quincunx aspect to Neptune. Your evasive tendencies can undermine your ability to accomplish what you want, especially if you are sending mixed messages through your actions (or lack thereof!). Men may seem to be difficult to pin down or understand, and part of the problem could be that you have trouble letting them know what you want or need. Try taking the risk of sharing your dreams with someone you trust, and find ways to approach manifesting them instead of just hoping that someday they will just happen. You'll be much more satisfied when you've been instrumental in creating your own happiness.

Your intrigue may be due to the influence of Mars trine Pluto, which stimulates your ability to blend your magnetism and charisma with action. You are a powerful woman, with the ability to direct your energy toward healing and transformational change. Men may be captivated by you, even when you're not doing anything out of the ordinary - for you. You can employ your sensuality to your advantage, and you know what turns people on.